Maintaining Your Motivation

Before we can motivate others, we need to achieve and maintain a high level of motivation for ourselves. With so many organizations running lean, I hear about self-motivation problems regularly. It’s hard to stay pumped up when there are so many demands being placed on us and when others around us are not particularly motivated. But staying motivated raises our value to the organization, something we always want to be mindful of. There are three steps that can help you develop your motivation: display a strong work commitment, strive for results, and develop yourself. Let’s look at ways to display a strong commitment to our work and consider trying just one of these.

Begin by knowing your priorities. Consider your values, goals and priorities for life and work. There are many tools and books available today to help you narrow this down. One I’m reading now is Ask Yourself This by Wendy Craig-Purcell. Discuss and validate your ideas with your family and others close to you. Consider how you spend your time relative to your stated priorities, determine if some adjustments need to be made, and develop a plan to make the needed adjustments. It’s too difficult to maintain our motivation when we’re not doing the things that matter the most to us.

Next is to set high personal standards. Identify your most important responsibilities at work and define superior performance for yourself. Set standards for yourself in each area. What aspects of the job are most important? Timeliness, quality, responsiveness, integrity, relationship building? Monitor your accomplishments and be sure to reward yourself when you meet your standard. Re-evaluate your standards and accomplishments every six months. This step is really important if performance appraisals are not done at your job or if you’re self employed.

Can you make your work more interesting? Identify your most routine tasks and look for ways to do them more efficiently or at least differently. Consider delegating more tasks to develop others and to enable you to take on new tasks. (This is something to consider at home, too!) Review and update your job description, suggesting new responsibilities for yourself that would be interesting to you and also benefit your employer. Perhaps you could swap tasks with a coworker, giving you each a fresh challenge.

Finally, commit to your organization. Be intentional in that commitment to your organization and reinforce it in difficult times. Pay attention to your thoughts, conversations, and actions. Do they reflect your commitment? Support your co-workers, employees, leaders, and customers daily. That support will come back to you in positive ways that will enhance your motivation.

Using High Powered Influencing Techniques

Now that we’ve looked at eight different techniques for influencing others, I’d like to share two examples to illustrate how powerful these methods are when used properly. The first is an example of collaboration that I experienced as a customer service manager for the Travelers back in the 1990s. I had team of customer service representatives who wanted to have a four-day workweek rather than the traditional five eight-hour day schedule. I got my boss to agree to a pilot (a great way to a new idea in motion – propose it as a “pilot,” so it can be more easily abolished if it fails). I decided to turn the scheduling over to the team, since the employees were the ones who wanted the program. I collaborated with them and they with each other to create a schedule that everyone could at least live with, if not be excited about. It worked beautifully. They knew that I was taking a risk turning over the decision making to them and that this was an opportunity for the team. They were highly motivated to do it right. They hashed the schedule out, making sure we had adequate coverage at all times. Taking a hands-off approach, I was supportive, yet couldn’t be blamed for the schedule.

Unfortunately, in the second case, I was not so brilliant. While at the Travelers, we created a new auditor position for customer service. As you can imagine, this was not a popular initiative with the staff, although everyone understood the need for such a program. The other customer service managers and I decided to select the first auditors from our teams, rather than post the positions as usual. The person would fill the role of auditor for only six months, to avoid being typecast and to give others the opportunity to take the position. I had a very detailed and knowledgeable employee in mind who I approached for the position. Knowing she knew all about the role, without much discussion I asked her if she was interested. She turned me down flat. I was stunned. She was typically very agreeable and supportive of the team. I chose another person and sometime later asked the first employee why she had not accepted my offer. She essentially told me, without using these terms of course, that I had failed use reasoning or acknowledging with her. In my haste to fill the position, I never explained to her why I had selected her, how well she had done thus far in the department, and how good I thought she would be in the role. What an eye-opener this was for me! Thank heavens I’d at least had enough sense to ask her about this, because my type A personality was quite strong at that time and I needed to hear this feedback. People respond to acknowledgement and praise, and it’s so easy to give! In this case, it was essential to offer, having cost me my first choice in that critical new role.

Take the time to consider the influencing techniques and don’t be afraid to employ them. You may be pleasantly surprised to discover how much easier things can be.

Last Resort Techniques for Gaining Compliance

You’ve probably heard the saying that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. But what if you don’t have any honey or the honey didn’t work? Vinegar may be what you have to turn to. With our techniques for gaining support, there are two last resort methods that you may have to use: using position power and applying pressure. The reason these are last resort tactics is that they don’t result in commitment from others, but simply compliance. The person goes along with us because he feels he doesn’t have another choice, and this is less than ideal for all parties.

Of the two options, using position power is the preferred method. As I discussed a couple of weeks ago, position power is your potential to influence based on the position you hold in the organization. It could be based on the formal job title you have and your place in the organizational structure or it could result from the role you’re playing at that time, such as heading up a project team. With position power, you make it clear that you have the authority to require the individual to comply, based on your title. The military is known for using this compliance technique, often because there isn’t time to use the other methods. In the heat of the battle, the commanding officer must take charge and act quickly. So you can see that this technique has its place. It can also be used in similar situations where compliance is needed and the relationship you have with the other person is not critical, such as when a store manager requires a problem customer to leave.

The other compliance gaining tactic is to apply pressure to the other party, using threats or persistent reminders. Power struggles at work can sometimes lead to this. I can recall a time when a manager who was my peer put off completing a performance appraisal on an employee that had transferred from her department to mine. When the employee’s evaluation came due, I had to finalize and deliver it, but it needed significant input from his former manager. After several reminders, I had to tell her that I would take the matter up with our boss if she did not comply by a specified date. I think she took me seriously, because she did complete the appraisal before my deadline. While I did not want to create animosity with my peer, my role and reputation as a leader were more important to me. I felt the support and respect of my staff were more important than my relationship with the other manager.

So keep these eight practices in mind when you need or want support from others: reasoning, connecting, and collaborating; acknowledging, trading, and coalition building; and using position power and applying pressure.

More Techniques for Gaining Commitment from Others

We’ve been looking at specific techniques for gaining commitment from other people for the initiatives we’re trying to accomplish. Last time, we addressed reasoning, connecting and collaborating. Today we consider a different set of techniques that work well when we need other approaches. They are acknowledging, trading, and coalition building.

When we acknowledge someone we recognize his contributions, efforts, or accomplishments; give credit for her contribution to an effort; or express understanding and concern for any inconvenience involved with carrying out our request. People love to be appreciated for what they do and who they are. This simple gesture is so easy to make and too frequently overlooked. It’s so much easier to criticize, it seems, than to praise. The key to this skill is to make the recognition sincere. Acknowledging is a simple, yet powerful way to build support at work, at home, and in the community.

The next strategy in this tier is trading: offering something in return for a person’s support and help. You’ve most likely heard the question, “What’s in it for me?” This method taps into that common thought and directly answers the question by your offering something in exchange for the individual’s support. Lawmakers have used this process for years! The way to make this work is to find out what you can trade that would be valued by the other person. Does she need your support for one of her ideas? Does she need you to cover a shift, train a new person, or oversee a committee? Strive to make the trade a win-win situation, and you’ll have a greater chance of successfully gaining commitment.

Finally in this set of techniques is coalition building which is using the support of other parties to gain commitment from someone. This involves mentioning credible people who support our plan or proposal, bringing someone with relevant expertise along to support us, or asking others to provide evidence in support of our proposal. This approach is sixth on our list because it can appear to be manipulative or seem as if we are using other people. Coalition building can be helpful if we need the support of someone who does not know us well, but who does know the party that is part of our coalition.

We have one final set of strategies that can be used as a last resort when seeking the commitment of others, so be sure to stay tuned.

Strategies for Achieving the Highest Level of Support - Commitment

Life at work is so much more enjoyable when we work with people who are committed to the same goals. We’re also more effective as leaders and our direct reports enjoy working there because they are contributing their best. How do we influence people to support our initiatives and increase commitment to the organization overall? We’ve looked at three kinds of power and saw the value of combining interpersonal power with expert power. In addition, there are three sets of behaviors we can employ.

The first tier contains the most desirable actions to take, because they build people up and enhance our interpersonal power. They are to reason, to connect, and to collaborate. When we use reason to influence others, it compliments them. Why is that? When we reason with people, we explain the rationale and logic to what we are suggesting. We’re assuming they are intelligent people, able to apply logic and common sense. It’s straightforward and non-manipulative, avoiding any attempt to “sell them” on something they may not like. This approach is particularly effective with analytical people or with proposals that are data-oriented.

The next behavior in this tier is to connect with those we wish to influence, tapping into their values and ideals and relating those to the work. This is a more natural process with people we know well and in work environments where employees are selected based in part on the values they demonstrate. It’s also easier when others hold the same values we do; it can be more challenging with someone in a generational group different than our own. For instance, Baby Boomers (born between 1946 and 1964) tend to be optimistic, ambitious, and loyal while Generation X (born between 1965 and 1979) are seen as resourceful, individualistic, self reliant and skeptical of authority. Values are very powerful motivators, though, so it’s worth the effort to identify others’ values and use those to connect them with the goal.

The final action in this powerful set is to collaborate with others by asking for their ideas on plans that will affect them in some way. This is another opportunity to honor people, showing respect for their input and recognizing their experience. It not only builds their self confidence, it also increases the likelihood of your success in two ways: it promotes commitment since they were part of the decision-making process and it may enable you to avoid problems you may not have foreseen without their input.

Over the years, I’ve learned the benefits of this set of influencing behaviors. I’ll share some powerful lessons in the future, so stay with me.

Develop the Best Kind of Power

As we said last time, in sports power is what moves the ball down the field or the player around the bases. In the workplace, power is what gets teams engaged and working to accomplish their goals. To be most effective in a leadership role, it’s important to recognize that there are different kinds of power. Each has its place and usually one is more applicable to a situation than another.

Position power is your potential to influence based on the position you hold in the organization. It could be based on the formal job title you have and your place in the organizational structure or it could result from the role you’re playing at that time, such as heading up a project team. Critical elements of this type of power include your authority based on your position, your control over resources and information, and your ability to remove obstacles that appear. Relying on this power alone is rarely an ideal approach in today’s workplace. It tends to result in compliance, rather than commitment, with people doing something because you told them to. It may be an ego rush for some leaders, but it does not last. Outside of the role, the leader has no influence over others. It’s the position, not the person, which has the power. There are occasions where there isn’t time to develop or demonstrate the other two kinds of power; in these situations, relying on your position power may be your best choice.

Expert power is your reliability as a source of guidance and instruction, based on your knowledge and experience. Experts grow their power by repeatedly demonstrating their expertise in a particular area. Degrees, licenses, and certification are an excellent foundation, but it’s the practice experience that really translates into power. You are more likely to be seen as an expert if you are confident and have a solid track record of demonstrated knowledge and skill. This is a valuable type of power to develop. It often has value across organizations and it resides with you, not your job.

The final type of power, interpersonal power, is your ability to influence based on how you interact with others. This kind of power is built through effectively communicating with others; showing understanding and trust; and displaying optimism, enthusiasm, determination, and self-confidence. People often admire and identify with people who possess high interpersonal power. Given the nature of this power type, it takes time to develop. Interpersonal power is increased when you are considerate and show concern for others’ needs and feelings and defend their interests; it is diminished by hostility, distrust, rejection, or indifference. Interpersonal power is well worth the effort to develop, as it is much more likely to foster commitment than position power is.

Combining interpersonal power with expert power is an extremely effective way to enhance your influence and effectiveness as a leader. Consider the most respected and beloved mentors, coaches, teachers and managers you have encountered, and you’ll most likely conclude that they had highly developed expert and interpersonal power.

Power vs. Force

Last time we looked at the three degrees or levels of support we can give others and they can give us: resistance, compliance, and commitment. Before we explore different specific techniques for gaining support, it’s important to distinguish power from force.

According to the dictionary, “power” has multiple meanings which include: the capacity to do something, such as ability or skill; strength; control, persuasiveness, and influence; and the authority to act. “Force,” when used as a noun, has similar meanings such as natural strength, physical or nonphysical power, and effectiveness. However, it can also refer to a group organized to fight, people working together, or an influence that moves something. The definitions of the verb, “force,” make it even easier to distinguish between power and force: to compel someone, to move something with strength, to create passage by strength, to obtain something by pressure, to break something open, and to strain to do something (Encarta Dictionary).

David R. Hawkins in his book Power vs. Force makes several enlightening distinctions between power and force. Power appeals to what uplifts and dignifies and needs no justification. It is still, whole and complete and requires nothing from the outside. Gravity is an example of power. Force, on the other hand, must always be justified and succumbs to power. Force always moves against something and therefore must be fed energy all the time. While power gives life and energy, force takes these away (Hawkins, 2002, pp. 132-3).

Hawkins’ differentiations make sense to me. As leaders and effective team members, it’s our development of power that is critical. Force moves against people, so it is counterproductive in a team environment. Even in the sports arena, I think of force being used when there’s a flag on the play or a foul is called. Power is what moves the ball down the field or the player around the bases. It’s also true in the workplace, as we’ll explore.

Three Levels of Support and How to Recognize Them

In the workplace, as leaders or individual contributors, we often have the need to influence others to gain their commitment and cooperation. (This skill is also quite useful at home!) There are three levels of buy-in we can get from others: commitment, compliance, or opposition. Although you may have to settle for compliance from time to time, your effectiveness may depend on your ability to get commitment from the key people you work with, both within your area and in other functions and departments across the organization. It’s important to examine your approach and its effect on others, to avoid being blindsided by another’s lack of commitment. Let’s look at the three levels in a bit more detail.

Commitment is your goal. You are most successful if the other person agrees with the action or decision you are asking her to carry out. A person with commitment is dedicated, puts forth her greatest effort, and shows initiative in finding the best way to do the work. Commitment brings with it self-discipline that does not need monitoring. People who are fully committed are willing to go above and beyond what is required without any outside pressure to do so.

Compliance occurs when the other person carries out the requested action, but is apathetic and makes only a minimal effort. Here you have limited success: you did get the desired action, but not necessarily the optimal outcome. Compliance is unlikely to result in innovative, collaborative solutions to a problem and will probably need more monitoring and oversight on your part. There are some rare cases, however, where compliance is all that is required, such as punching in at the end of a shift. Typically, though, even the simplest tasks can be done to varying degrees, for instance completing an expense report or leaving a room better than you found it (not just as you found it).

Resistance is the final possibility and applies to the person is opposed to your request or plan and tries to avoid carrying it out. It shows up in various ways and may be obvious or subtle. The person may actively work against you by going to upper management or soliciting others to oppose you. Alternatively, he may simply delay acting in the hope that you are not committed to the effort. Some of the most destructive workplace behaviors is when someone in resistance pretends to comply but tries to sabotage the effort.

There are a number of strategies for exerting influence on others. Before we get to those, consider these three levels of support, both that you get from others and that you recognize in yourself. Where are you getting full commitment from your co-workers? Did you do anything in particular to receive their cooperation? Are there situations where your efforts are opposed? How about your own show of support for others? Are you doing all you can to foster a supportive working environment? Supporting the efforts of others is a great way to strengthen relationships, build your own support, and nurture the workplace. Take some time to answer these questions and follow along as we explore ways to be more effective at influencing others.

The High Cost of Values

Much is written today about the need for values in the workplace. It sounds so fine and noble to call ourselves people of high values, but are we always aware of the high cost of such a commitment? I remember a situation years ago where my commitment came under fire.

I was a recruiter for a non-profit organization. We, like so many employers, had a new hire drug screening policy. I had an applicant for a finance department opening who had previous experience working for a major competitor. The head of finance really wanted to hire this person, even after he failed the drug test. Our organization had never hired anyone who failed, so I felt confident my decision not to hire would be supported by our CEO. It wasn’t. The CEO felt the financial information the new employee had from his past employer was too valuable to pass by, and legal counsel suggested that it was unlikely that our decision would be discovered and successfully challenged. It was never considered that the information this person had was confidential and sharing it with us would not only have been unethical, but would most likely have violated a confidentiality agreement he would have signed upon taking his job.

Not only did I lose that argument, I paid a greater price. Shortly after this incident, a position opened up at a sister facility in a location to which I wanted to relocate. A member of management at my facility said I would not receive a favorable recommendation for the position because I was seen as “inflexible” in my stance that we abide by our drug-free policy regardless of the candidate.

While that was demoralizing at the time, thankfully the story did not end there. The employee was hired, but soon developed an attendance problem and was ultimately fired. (There is a reason employers screen out drug users!) The financial situation of our facility did not improve dramatically as a result of this person being hired, and eventually the head of finance was also let go. The sister facility in my desired location closed within a year or two and I did relocate there on my own, having accepted a lateral position with a competitor.

It took a while for all of this to occur. It was a very difficult period in my professional life, yet I wouldn’t do it any differently. If you’ve been working a while, you’ve probably experienced similar things, and you may not have had the vindication I had. Still, without our values, what do we have that is lasting?

Gather the Facts First

Employees face a number of issues at work and often come to their supervisors for assistance or even a solution. Years ago I had a staff member who loved to drop the “hot potato” in my lap and then expect me to deal with it. Eventually I learned to turn it back on her, requiring her to present a solution whenever she had a problem to discuss with me.

One time, during a discussion about her productivity, she told me that she could not get any work done because she was constantly being interrupted by visitors asking her where various departments were located. We worked in a hospital and were situated near a side door, nowhere near the information desk located up front. She suggested I propose to management that a receptionist be hired and stationed at the side entrance. Knowing that any notion that additional staff be hired would need substantial support, I had her track her interruptions for one week. This would give us an idea of how busy this new person would be. How enlightening it was for her to discover that her “constant” interruptions occurred at the rate of just one per hour! This simple strategy resulted in her realizing that interruptions were not the cause of her inefficiency.

Those familiar with CQI – Continuous Quality Improvement – will recognize the need to gather and analyze the data. Assumptions, impressions, and generalizations are not sound bases for making organizational changes or for disciplining employees. One of my greatest mentors taught me to conduct my fact-finding first, and then work out possible solutions. This disciplined approach never let me down over the years.

Are You Limiting Your Potential?

Do you have a clear vision for your professional success? A vision is a thing or idea perceived vividly in the imagination. It answers the question, “What would it look like if I achieved my purpose and my specific goals?”

It’s not unusual to limit our personal vision with negative thoughts or scarcity thinking. To see if you have this tendency, see how many of the following thoughts you find yourself holding from time to time.
• I can’t have what I want.
• I want what someone else wants.
• It doesn’t matter what I want; I can’t have it.
• I’m not smart enough (or educated enough).
• I don’t have enough money (or time).
• I’m too old (or too young).
• I’m not tall enough, thin enough, good-looking enough, talented enough…
• My spouse (partner, boss, kids, parents, etc.) won’t let me.
• I am afraid of what I want.
• I don’t know what I want.
• I know what I want, but I can’t have it at work.
• I have what I want, so what?

Did you see yourself in any of these statements? Perhaps you hold a limiting belief not listed here. Whatever the thought may be, take a moment now to examine it. Let’s assume your “limitation” is a fact, such as age. What if you’re over 60? Can you think of anyone over the age of 60 who achieved a vision? Of course! The very first hit of a Google search listed the following achievers over the age of 60: Ronald Reagan, Sam Snead, Gandhi, William Jennings Bryan, Benjamin Franklin, Frank McCourt, Leonardo da Vinci, Leo Tolstoy, Michelangelo, and Winston Churchill. How about not having enough money or time? When you really think about it, I’m sure you’ll be able to think of at least one person who overcame similar circumstances.

A number of the limiting thoughts are attitudes, not unchangeable facts. You could face your fears, risk disappointing your spouse, determine what would make your heart soar, and even change jobs, if you wanted to badly enough. In truth, most people let seeming limitations hold them back because it’s safer that way. If we don’t try, we don’t fail. As Confucius put it, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

The Value of Diversity

Diversity is a big buzz word today, as the world shrinks ever smaller with our expanding technology. There are three definitions of diversity, all of which organizations would do well to value:

1) a variety of something such as opinion, color, or style
2) ethnic variety, as well as socioeconomic and gender variety, in a group, society, or institution
3) discrepancy, or a difference from what is normal or expected (taken from the Encarta Dictionary)

The second definition is the one typically thought of when we refer to diversity in the workplace. Despite the good intentions expressed by most organizations today, the number of discrimination cases the EEOC handles continues to increase. Perhaps we would benefit by expanding our understanding of diversity to include the first and third definitions as well. How well do your managers encourage varying opinions from employees, particularly when it is in opposition to the managers’ views? As an HR Director, I frequently had employees at all levels of the organization, even some senior to me, voice their opposing views behind my closed door, because it was safe to do so. The common feeling was that their superiors were open only to hearing what they wanted to hear. I was the one who heard what needed to be said.

The third definition is also of value to us. How do we respond when confronted with a discrepancy or something that is not what we expected? I recall hearing an executive tell her boss about the executive’s visit to the hospital to see an ill subordinate. The executive commented about the Bible that was on the stand next to the employee’s bed, referring to the subordinate as “one of those.” Sadly, the boss (who was also my boss) did not pick up on the offensiveness of this remark until I called her attention to it.

Truly respecting diversity is not easy, and valuing it is even harder. Regular, at least annual, diversity training is a good place to start.

The Power of Alignment

We all know what it means to align our tires, but do you think about alignment at work? Workplace alignment happens when the organization’s actions are in sync with its stated objectives and values. Alignment doesn’t usually happen on its own; it takes a conscious effort to ensure that management’s actions and the programs it implements are aligned with the overall vision of the company.

For example, a company that says it values teamwork but promotes competition among employees is out of alignment. Do a football team’s players compete with each other or with the other team? If you want a culture of teamwork, cooperation, and collaboration, you need to look at your reward and assessment programs to ensure they promote these things. While performance appraisals and related rewards don’t need to be totally team-based, there should be a component that recognizes teamwork. The old adage, “behavior that gets rewarded gets repeated” still applies.

Another common misalignment occurs in retail settings where both customer service and high individual sales performance are promoted. Sometimes these goals conflict with each other. Years ago I worked in the linen department of a fine department store. Sales staff was given aggressive sales quotas to meet to avoid receiving a cut in base pay in the next quarter. We were also told to give the best possible customer service. It didn’t take long for me to observe a clash of these objectives as sales staff competed for customers and avoided helping each other since the credit for a sale could not be shared. Often the most aggressive sales rep would get to the customer first, rather than the employee with the best product knowledge to meet that customer’s needs. If the store had clearly stated that the primary goal was to provide the best service to the customer, the most knowledgeable sales rep could have been called upon. In addition, the sales reps could have developed their own areas of expertise based on their interests, and the group as a whole would have been more effective at addressing specific customer needs.

If you’re not seeing the kind of behavior you’d like to see in your workplace, take a good hard look at what you’re truly promoting and reinforcing. Focus on your actions, not your words, for we know which of these speaks the loudest.

What Does Your Organization Stand For?

All forward-thinking companies today have either vision or mission statements (or both) and defined values. Typically these are posted at the entrance in the main lobby, discussed at new employee orientation, and included in the employee handbook. More sophisticated organizations incorporate the values into the employee and management performance appraisal process. But how well do people really understand the values and more importantly, how effectively do they live them?

In my career, I worked in manufacturing, state and federal government, insurance (both property/casualty and health), healthcare, and consulting. While everyone of these organizations had values statements (except perhaps government, but that was a long time ago), the best example of living the organization’s values came in Catholic healthcare. Not only did the hospital do all the things I mentioned above, it also had a senior level leader assigned as the mission director. She did annual training on the values which every employee was required to attend. The hospital held a yearly recognition program identifying employees who especially demonstrated one of the values in their daily performance.

The most powerful reinforcement of the hospital’s values came from the placement of triangular tent cards with the values printed on them that were placed on every conference room table. As various groups, departments, and committees met, the group members routinely referred to the values (which were right in front of them) when making decisions. Leaders in particular modeled this behavior and would often ask, “How well does this suggestion align with our values?” With the values as a guide, the organization’s decision-making was stronger and more consistent than it would have been without them. What a powerful message it sends to employees when management chooses to take a more challenging action that is in line with its stated values than an easier one.

An Olympic Inspiration - Laura Wilkinson

A favorite inspirational Olympic story I love to share with clients is that of Laura Wilkinson's 2000 Olympic diving gold medal. Laura had been injured and unable to dive for THREE months earlier in 2000. Yet somehow she was able to come from eighth position in the standings to blow past the competition and win the gold medal. How did she do it?

After her injury and knowing she had faced the Olympic games in just a few months, Laura used the mind technique of mental rehearsal to conduct her training every day, just as if she was actually going into the pool. For hours she would "practice" the dives in her mind, seeing herself walk to the ladder, climb up, walk to the edge, look into the water, and take her dive. She imagined every detail and saw herself completing in each dive perfectly, over and over again - for three months. When it came time for the games, she just did what she had done hundreds times before in her mind.

There are so many ways we can use mental rehearsal in nurturing ourselves professionally and personally. Whether it's getting out of bed early to exercise or having that difficult but necessary conversation with a boss or peer at work, the process is the same. Imagine exactly how you would like the scene to go, be as detailed as possible, and see yourself performing perfectly. Be sure to feel good about the experience as you see it in your mind. This will fuel you even more, as certain parts of the brain do not distinguish what's real from what's imagined. Those good feelings repeated over and over will actually help you get out of bed or face your boss.

Living in the Flow

Every year time seems to go by faster and faster, have you noticed? As we get older and still have big dreams we want to accomplish, we can get a bit anxious about this rapid passing of time. Do we have enough time remaining to accomplish what we set out to this year, a decade ago, or maybe even at the outset of our careers?

One highly effective way I've found of approaching this dilemma is by setting an intention to live life in the Divine Flow. Steven Lane Taylor does a wonderful job of explaining this way of living, giving us proven tools for recognizing and cooperating with the underlying current that exists in each of our lives. He's so good at this because for years he did it the hard way, the way many of us do - pushing, scheming, and manipulating circumstances and events, trying to get them to go as we thought they had to for us to meet our objectives. Eventually he realized that the Universe is actually on our sides, working daily to guide us to the fulfillment of our dreams in a joyful, effortless way!

I had a perfect demonstration of this idea in a big way a couple of years ago. After two months of training to pass my audition to become a certified Jazzercise instructor, I broke my toe (and my confidence) 10 days before my audition. I was the only one out of 11 to fail - can you imagine how I felt? But encouraged by the support of family and friends I arranged to have a top instructor mentor me, and two months later I passed the audition with accolades. I immediately took over a well-paying class with up to 100 customers, many of whom have been with Jazzercise over 20 years. In just a few weeks, we were all having a great time together, although I found out later that most of them were dead-set against me at the beginning. If I had not had the opportunity to train with one of the best, I doubt I would have been successful in winning them over in the long run. The Universe really was conspiring for my good, even if it didn't appear so at the time!

So keep one of my favorite bits of advice from Steve in mind the next time something appears that doesn't look good: if the appearance isn't good, it's not over yet. For much more on this, I recommend Steve’s book: Row, Row, Row Your Boat, Living Life in the Divine Flow.

The Power of Recognition

I was recently recognized by Rio Salado College as one of its Outstanding Adjunct Faculty members for 2009-2010. Fewer than 5% of the 1100 adjunct faculty are awarded this honor, so I am proud and excited about this accomplishment. I work very hard to help my students in every aspect of their learning, including reading comprehension; study and test taking skills; college essay writing; case study analysis; and basic grammar, spelling, and punctuation. It’s not an easy job, because not every student wants the level of feedback and attention I provide. That’s what makes the award so fulfilling, to learn that my efforts really are appreciated. But I was surprised by another reaction I had to this, besides appreciation: I found myself wanting to do even more. It felt like now I really had to (and wanted to) live up to this title of outstanding adjunct faculty member, and that was a good thing.

What’s the take away for anyone in a leadership role? It’s to remember the power of recognition. You may have heard the expression, “Catch ‘em doing something right!” How wise that advice is. When we tell employees that they did something well and give them specifics, a few things happen. First, they realize someone is actually paying attention to what they do. They understand that it really does matter whether they show up or not. Second, they learn exactly what they did well so they can do it again. And finally, they feel proud and may well respond as I did and want to do even more. The best part of all for those in leadership is that there is no cost to this performance and morale boost. All it takes is awareness on your part and a little bit of time. Give it a try today, and see what happens.

Acting Out at Work

When children misbehave at school, teachers sometimes kindly tell the parents that they’ve been “acting out” in the classroom. This phrase may refer to a child’s ignoring or arguing with the teacher, not sharing with another student, being uncooperative with classmates, or having a temper tantrum during class. While unpleasant, these are not unexpected behaviors – after all, they’re children.
But what happens when people “act out” at work? Such actions can look quite similar to those of a child: over sensitivity, inconsideration of others, withdrawal, failure to listen, irritability, impatience, or negativity. Do any of these sound familiar?

The Birkman Assessment has a wonderful explanation of and approach to such behaviors. According to the Birkman, people generally behave in these unconstructive ways when their needs are not being met. These negative actions are called “stress behaviors” because the people exhibiting them are truly feeling stressed. Since we don’t know what other people’s needs are unless they tell us, we usually have no idea their needs are being neglected. We tend to get frustrated with their acting out when, in reality, the Birkman would tell us it’s not their fault. Sometimes the people themselves don’t know what their needs truly are.

This was a profound explanation for me when I first heard it. I found it beneficial on two levels. First, it helped me be more compassionate and supportive of my co-workers when they were experiencing stress. Rather than take their actions personally, I reminded myself that they had a need (not a desire, but a need) that was not being met. Depending on the situation, I might be able to assist the individual in meeting that need and alleviating the stress. Second, it enabled me to recognize some of my own stress behaviors. This forced me to examine my needs, some of which had not been apparent to me. It was then up to me to ensure that my needs were met, as that was the only way to permanently eliminate my unconstructive actions.

I hope this helps you the next time you or someone you encounter at work is exhibiting stress behaviors. For more on the Birkman, click here.

Making Change Easier

Wouldn’t it be great if it was easier to change our behavior? Don’t you wish you could help those around you at work find it easier to make a change? According to Dr.Dean Ornish, founder of the Preventative Medicine Research Institute and a professor of medicine at the University of California at San Francisco, reasons for the change need to be positive in order for people to be successful in altering their behavior. All too often, we attempt to motivate change using fear tactics, emphasizing the dire outcomes that are likely if we don’t change. Dr. Ornish says this just does not work. He recommends trying the reverse: paint a picture of the positive results of making the change. Whether it’s getting the advanced degree, striving to get along with the difficult co-worker or agreeing to take on a new responsibility, focus on the beneficial outcome. Make the WIIFM something desirable! For more ideas on motivating employees, check this out.